On Turning 60: It's More Than Looking Young

Yesterday, I celebrated my 60th birthday! Sometimes when I tell someone my age, they say, "You don't look 60!" Whether it is true or not, it is a sweet sentiment, and I appreciate the kindness behind it. Still, it makes me think about something deeper. In our society, especially for women, "not looking your age" often feels like a badge of honor.

But there is more to life than eternal youth.

We live in a world, especially on social media, where everyone presents this flawless version of themselves. Scrolling through feeds feels like watching a highlight reel of glowing skin and picture-perfect lives. I get caught up in it, too. I've used filters on days when I don't feel like putting on makeup or want to hide a bit. It's tempting, and sometimes it feels easier. But at the end of the day, those filters don't change who I really am. A pretty filter can't erase my experiences or the person I've grown to be.

Turning 60 doesn't make me wish I could turn back the clock. Honestly, I wouldn't want to erase a single year if I could. Each phase has shaped me into who I am, even in difficult times. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter how flawless I look in pictures. My value is reflected in the relationships I built and the way I find joy in growing and living.

As I step into this next chapter, I want to focus on building a meaningful life instead of just appearances. I want to prioritize depth over youth. In my work with Reiki and mindfulness, I meet many wonderful people who are starting to let go of the pressure to look a certain way and instead are reaching for something truly healing.

So yes, when someone tells me I "don't look 60," I'll smile and appreciate the compliment. But inside, I'll be thinking: Thank you! But you know what? That's not really the point!